Friday Night seven of us girls got together for dinner at Babbo’s. What a great time! We had some devotion, prayer, lots of laughter and good food. I knew 3 of the other ladies fairly well, the others not at all. It was a lot of fun. We talked about our spiritual walks, God moments, relationships, kids, everything. Getting to know one another and just doing life together.
A few times a conversation of concern came up. Maybe something someone was struggling with, wasn’t feeling good about, etc. This lady I absolutely adore; Marilyn, has such a way with words. She can snap anyone out of a negative moment and point out all the good of the situation. Johnny and I have prayed with her or her husband several times at church. She is just a genuine, caring soul. She definitely knows what her spiritual gifts are and never lets a moment in need slip by when someone needs an encouraging word or an uplifting prayer. She gets you back on track and not living in the ‘poor me moment’ any longer. She loves people enough to tell them what they need to hear. Yet, its done with such grace and kindness.
I was thinking about these ladies I chose to surround myself with that night. And the good they were bringing into my life. How important it is to put positive people around you. You know the saying, guilty by association? Well what would you be guilty of by the friends you hang out with? Gossip? Negativity? Serving? Lifting people up? Honoring God’s word? Think about it. It is so easy to fall into a trap. Often our friends are the people we call when something goes wrong. When we had an argument with our significant other, our boss made us angry, or we just want to “vent.” Believe me, I am totally guilty of making the phone call to my friend Jordan or Shay to let them know what ‘went wrong’ in my day.
How do your friends react to that phone call, or how do they react when maybe you aren’t doing something right. Johnny calls it, “calling them out.” He has two pretty close friends that are Godly men and they will call him out when he’s in the wrong and he does same to them as well. That’s a friendship. Real friends aren’t afraid to develop one another, to call you out and say, “Chels, snap out of it, doing such and such is not helping the situation and not the right thing to be doing.” Sure, you may be mad for a minute, maybe even a day or two. But truth is, maybe you needed to hear it and lucky for you, they love you enough to say it. I’ve called my friend Lauren before about various things and sometimes I just need to hear her say out loud what God is already been telling me in my heart.
Proverbs 27:6 says, “The wounds of a friend are trustworthy, but the kisses of an enemy are excessive.” Friendships shouldn’t be about pretending. Sometimes there is friction involved. Sometimes its intense. But the result can be absolutely beautiful. Stronger friendship, personal growth.
At Girls Night Out, I was around ladies that I think would challenge me. That even though they barely know me, they would encourage me and help me grow. I have always heard, “A friend loves you for who you are, but a great friend loves you too much to let you stay the way you are.” Does this mean, you go around pointing out all the flaws in your bestie? Heck no. But being honest, loving, and challenging them may just change their life. Proverbs 27:17 says, “As iron sharpens iron, so a man sharpens the countenance of his friends.” What are you doing to sharpen your friend? Are you being real and honest? Helping them grow and speaking life? Or are you dragging them down, indulging in gossip and negativity? Misery loves company. Don’t be that kind of company. Be a friend of hope and encouragement and most of all just be real.
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